{"id":20745,"date":"2020-01-16T14:14:43","date_gmt":"2020-01-16T11:14:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/?p=20745"},"modified":"2020-01-16T03:46:12","modified_gmt":"2020-01-16T00:46:12","slug":"you-and-your-boss-are-friends","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/you-and-your-boss-are-friends\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You and Your Manager Friends? Be Careful\u2014it May Not Be in Your Best Interest"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/1.bp.blogspot.com\/-OiPsG8RR4pQ\/T6KrjpKfO2I\/AAAAAAAAFU8\/wIz_XbIzP2I\/s1600\/boss-not-friend.jpg\" alt=\"\u0646\u062a\u064a\u062c\u0629 \u0628\u062d\u062b \u0627\u0644\u0635\u0648\u0631 \u0639\u0646 \u202aYou and your boss are friends?\u202c\u200f\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">Given the many hours employees spend at work and the stress, anxiety, and pressure they face, building strong friendships is <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">essential in any workplace.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">Although employees feel that friendships are what keep them going at work and help them overcome challenges, a large-scale study <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">A recent series of experiments at the University of Chicago found that these relationships can have unintended downsides, especially when there are <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">A friendship between an employee and their manager.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">According to the research, managers feel they need to treat employees they are close friends with more strictly than other <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">\u0627\u0644\u0645\u0648\u0638\u0641\u064a\u0646\u060c \u0645\u0627 \u064a\u062c\u0639\u0644\u0647\u0645 \u0623\u0643\u062b\u0631 \u0639\u0631\u0636\u0629 \u0644\u0644\u0638\u0644\u0645 \u062d\u062a\u0649 \u0625\u0630\u0627 \u0643\u0627\u0646\u0648\u0627 \u064a\u0628\u0630\u0644\u0648\u0646 \u0645\u062c\u0647\u0648\u062f\u064b\u0627 \u0643\u0628\u064a\u0631\u064b\u0627.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&nbsp;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 28px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; color: #00ccff;\">\u062a\u0647\u0645\u064a\u0634 \u0627\u0644\u0623\u0635\u062f\u0642\u0627\u0621<\/span><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">After a series of experiments, the researchers found that managers who have to make certain employee-related decisions, such as who<a href=\"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/the-cheerful-staff\/\"> Team<\/a> should receive <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">When it comes to a bonus or promotion, they won\u2019t think of their friend; they\u2019ll give it to someone else with whom they have no personal relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">The study attributed this to managers\u2019 or supervisors\u2019 fear that people would accuse them of favoring their friends by giving them bonuses or promotions\u2014even when the employee is skilled <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">at their job, outperforms their peers, and deserves it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">One of the study\u2019s associate professors says the other employees will resent this person and unconsciously treat them very badly, <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">starting rumors about them, downplaying their abilities, and belittling their skills.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&nbsp;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 28px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; color: #00ccff;\">Favoring Others Over Friends<\/span><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">In one experiment involving more than 200 managers, they were all told that one of their friends had performed better than one of the candidates for a promotion, but the decision <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">He has the authority to decide who gets promoted, based on merit and job performance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">As a result, most managers decided to promote the other person, even though their friends were more qualified and deserving, for fear of being accused of favoring their friends <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">at others\u2019 expense.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 28px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; color: #00ccff;\">\u062d\u0633\u0627\u0633\u064a\u0629 \u0645\u064f\u0641\u0631\u0637\u0629<\/span><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">Managers are particularly sensitive when they have to make a decision involving a friend and another employee. One study found that they often tend <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">to favor the other person over their friend, and consistently leave their friends off their list of priorities.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">Employees, too, act with great caution and fear making mistakes in case they put their manager friend in an awkward position. This makes them less able to be creative and more <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">Vulnerable to pressure, they work long hours and put in a great deal of effort.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 28px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; color: #00ccff;\">\u0636\u063a\u0648\u0637\u0627\u062a \u0647\u0627\u0626\u0644\u0629<\/span><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">Some of the researchers involved in the study said that not all managers switch between integrity and favoritism when dealing with their friends at work. In some <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">experiments, managers decided to award bonuses and<a href=\"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/support-increased-employee-productivity-by-rewards\/\">Promotions<\/a> to employees based on merit and how long they had worked there.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">At the same time, the findings showed that managers face immense pressure when deciding whether to promote or give a raise to friends who work for them, <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">even when they make those decisions fairly and completely impartially.<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">Managers or administrators at <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/human-resources-management-jobs\/\">Human Resources<\/a> may be able to withstand these pressures and overcome the problems, but this will never change the fact <\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 20px; font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif;\">that a friendship between an employee and their manager in the workplace can have serious, unintended consequences.<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; \u0628\u0627\u0644\u0646\u0638\u0631 \u0625\u0644\u0649 \u0639\u062f\u062f \u0627\u0644\u0633\u0627\u0639\u0627\u062a \u0627\u0644\u0645\u064f\u0633\u062a\u0647\u0644\u0643\u0629 \u0648\u0627\u0644\u062a\u0648\u062a\u0631 \u0648\u0627\u0644\u0642\u0644\u0642 \u0648\u0627\u0644\u0636\u063a\u0648\u0637\u0627\u062a \u0627\u0644\u062a\u064a \u064a\u0639\u0627\u0646\u064a \u0645\u0646\u0647\u0627 \u0627\u0644\u0645\u0648\u0638\u0641\u0648\u0646 \u0641\u064a \u0645\u062d\u0644 \u0639\u0645\u0644\u0647\u0645\u060c \u0623\u0635\u0628\u062d \u062a\u0643\u0648\u064a\u0646 \u0639\u0644\u0627\u0642\u0627\u062a \u0635\u062f\u0627\u0642\u0629 \u0642\u0648\u064a\u0629 \u0623\u0645\u0631 \u0636\u0631\u0648\u0631\u064a \u0648\u0623\u0633\u0627\u0633\u064a \u0641\u064a \u0623\u064a<span class=\"excerpt-hellip\"> [\u2026]<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":20746,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_ibtdi_aa_focus_keyword":"","_ibtdi_aa_secondary_keywords":"","_ibtdi_aa_audience":"","_ibtdi_aa_tone":"","_ibtdi_aa_summary":"","_ibtdi_aa_reviewer_name":"","_ibtdi_aa_reviewer_bio":"","_ibtdi_aa_reviewer_url":"","_ibtdi_aa_reviewed_date":"","_ibtdi_aa_service_id":"","_ibtdi_aa_related_ids":"","_ibtdi_aa_human_reviewed":"","_ibtdi_aa_disable":"","_ibtdi_aa_disable_links":"","_ibtdi_aa_sources":"","_ibtdi_aa_update_notes":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[491],"tags":[7628,9434,2359,5956,20571,2055],"class_list":["post-20745","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-491","tag-7628","tag-9434","tag-2359","tag-5956","tag-20571","tag-2055"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20745","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=20745"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20745\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/20746"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=20745"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=20745"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=20745"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}