{"id":17481,"date":"2019-01-14T16:10:13","date_gmt":"2019-01-14T13:10:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/?p=17481"},"modified":"2019-01-14T16:10:13","modified_gmt":"2019-01-14T13:10:13","slug":"how-to-overcome-psychological-defeat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ibtdi.com\/en\/how-to-overcome-psychological-defeat\/","title":{"rendered":"How to overcome psychological defeat"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\u00d9\u0086\u00d8\u00aa\u00d9\u008a\u00d8\u00ac\u00d8\u00a9<\/p>\n

Self-defeating behavior can set us all back at some point in a project, sometimes bringing progress and work to a halt. To overcome self-defeating behavior<\/span><\/p>\n

or help your employees do so, first identify the type so you know how to address it. There are eight types of self-defeating behavior, which can be addressed <\/span><\/p>\n

as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

Controlling the conversation<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

You may think everyone is listening to your endless ideas. To find out, take another look: if you\u2019re speaking for others and constantly steering the conversation, <\/span><\/p>\n

that\u2019s not behavior befitting a good leader or team member.<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

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Many of us are dominated by catastrophic thinking about potential risks, while failure is often not as frightening as we imagine. Avoiding risks means <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll never get everything right, so you need to trust your own judgment about which risks are sometimes worth taking. Share your ideas with your manager before you<\/span><\/p>\n

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.<\/p>\n

Procrastination<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Most of us procrastinate at some point. If you\u2019re dreading a particular task, look for ways to make it more manageable. If it\u2019s complex, create<\/span><\/p>\n

a plan for how you\u2019ll tackle it. If it\u2019s boring, set aside a regular time each day to work on it, then carry on with the rest of your day as usual.<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

Avoiding difficult conversations<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Difficult conversations don\u2019t get easier when you avoid or end them\u2014in fact, the opposite is true. Try to see them as an opportunity to grow. Approach them with empathy<\/span><\/p>\n

for the other person and try to understand their perspective. You may be surprised by what you can learn together.<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

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Narrow-mindedness is a common form of self-defeat, according to Philip G. Decker and Jordan Paul Mitchell in \u0627\u0644\u0642\u064a\u0627\u062f\u0629<\/a> Psychologically, this means focusing extremely narrowly <\/span><\/p>\n

on a single task or role, preventing you from seeing the big picture. For example, we sometimes see this at work when a manager is focused on <\/span><\/p>\n

finishing a particular task and becomes angry, shouting at anyone who comes near, unaware of the negative impact their behavior has on others\u2014whether on personal relationships <\/span><\/p>\n

or workplace culture. Work Environment<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

Doing some work tasks from home<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

If you take work-related matters home with you, you reduce your mental clarity at work. You may think that the more time you spend doing<\/span><\/p>\n

your work, the more likely you are to get it done. That\u2019s not true: at some point, you need to recharge, so give yourself that time.<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

Not delegating certain tasks to others<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

The need to do or control everything wastes your time and sends others the message that you don\u2019t trust them. Micromanagement is one form of<\/span><\/p>\n

failing to delegate enough. If you monitor everyone too closely, you won\u2019t be able to delegate work to anyone.<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

Failing to ask for feedback<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Fear of feedback holds you back. You may be afraid to find out what others think of you, or worry that you\u2019ll be criticized for asking for advice, even though <\/span><\/p>\n

we all need advice\u2014including executives. Whatever your shortcomings, you can overcome them in just a few months if you ask for <\/span><\/p>\n

feedback.<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

\u062b\u0644\u0627\u062b \u062e\u0637\u0648\u0627\u062a<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Here are three steps to help you break self-defeating habits:<\/span><\/p>\n

Identify the causes of this behavior and when it arises, so you can recognize it from the outset.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ask someone whose advice you trust, and tell them about the behavior you\u2019re working to overcome.<\/span><\/p>\n

Identify the steps needed to establish a new pattern. Visualize the behavior you want to work on, and write yourself reminders.<\/span><\/p>\n

.<\/p>\n

Avoid replacing one self-defeating behavior with another. Philip and Mitchell warn that this is a common tendency, giving the example of <\/span><\/p>\n

someone who avoids anger by steering clear of conflict.<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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